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Conversational Skills People who usually make us feel comfortable in conversations are good talkers. And they have something
Conversational Skills People who usually make us feel comfortable in conversations are good talkers. And they have something
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2019-03-26
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Conversational Skills
People who usually make us feel comfortable in conversations are good talkers. And they have something in common, i.e. skills to put people at ease.
I. Skill to ask questions
1)Be aware of the【T1】______: readiness to answer other’s【T1】______
questions regardless of【T2】______:【T2】______
2)Start a conversation with some personal but【T3】______ questions,【T3】______
e.g. questions about one’s【T4】______job,【T4】______
questions about one’s activities in the【T5】______:【T5】______
3)Be able to spot signals for further talk.
II. Skill to【T6】______for answers【T6】______
1)Don’t shift from subject to subject,
— sticking to the same subject: signs of【T7】______ in【T7】______
conversation:
2)Listen to【T8】______ of voice,【T8】______
— if people sound unenthusiastic, then【T9】______:【T9】______
3)Use【T10】______,【T10】______
— steady your gaze while listening.
III. Skill to laugh
Effects of laughter
— ease people’s【T11】______:【T11】______
— help start【T12】______.【T12】______
IV. Skill to【T13】______【T13】______
1)Importance: open up possibilities for future friendship or contact:
2)Ways:
— men: a smile, a【T14】______:【T14】______
— women: same as【T15】______ now:【T15】______
— how to express pleasure in meeting someone.
【T6】
Conversational Skills
Good morning. Today’s lecture will focus on how to make people feel at ease in conversations. I guess all of you sitting here can recall certain people who just seem to make you feel comfortable when they are around. You spend an hour with them and feel as if you’ve known them half your life. These people who have that certain something that makes us feel comfortable have something in common, and once we know what that is, we can go about getting some of that something for ourselves. How is it done? Here are some of the skills that good talkers have. If you follow the skills, they will help you put people at their ease, make them feel secure, and comfortable, and turn acquaintances into friends.
First of all, good talkers ask questions. Almost anyone, no matter how shy, will answer a question. In fact, according to my observation, very shy persons are often more willing to answer questions than extroverts. They are more concerned that someone will think them impolite if they don’t respond to the questions. So most skillful conversationalists recommend starting with a question that is personal, but not harmful. For example, once a famous American TV presenter got a long and fascinating interview from a notoriously private billionaire by asking him about his first job. Another example, one prominent woman executive confesses that at business lunches, "I always ask people what they did that morning. It’s a dull question, but it gets things going." From there, you can move on to other matters, sometimes to really personal questions. Moreover, how your responder answers will let you know how far you can go. A few simple catchwords like "Really?" "Yes?" are clear invitations to continue talking.
Second, once good talkers have asked questions, they listen for answers. This point seems obvious, but isn’t in fact. Making people feel comfortable isn’t simply a matter of making idle conversation. Your questions have a point. You’re really asking, "What sort of person are you?" and to find out, you have to really listen. There are at least three components of real listening. For one thing, real listening means not changing the subject. If someone sticks to the topic, you can assume that he or she is really interested in it. Another component of real listening is listening not to just words but to tones of voice. I once mentioned D. H. Lawrence to a friend. To my astonishment, she launched into an academic discussion of the imagery in Lawrence’s works. Midway through, I listened to her voice. It was, to put it mildly, unanimated, and it seemed obvious that the imagery monologue was intended solely for my benefit, and I quickly changed the subject. At last, real listening means using your eyes as well as your ears. When your gaze wanders, it makes people think they’re boring you, or what they are saying is not interesting. Of course, you don’t have to stare, or glare at them. Simply looking attentive will make most people think that you think they’re fascinating.
Next, good talkers are not afraid to laugh. If you think of all the people you know who make you feel comfortable, you may notice that all of them laugh a lot. Laughter is not only warming and friendly, it’s also a good way to ease other people’s discomfort. I have a friend who I enjoy watching in gatherings of other people who do not know each other well. The first few minutes of talk are a bit uneasy and hesitant, for the people involved do not yet have a sense of each other. Invariably, a light comment or joke is made, and my friend’s easy laughter appears like sunshine in the conversation. There is always then a visible softening that takes place. Other people smile and loosen in response to her laughter, and the conversation goes on with more warmth and ease.
Finally, good talkers are ones who cement a parting, that is, they know how to make use of parting as a way to leave a deep impression on others. Last impressions are just as important as first impressions in determining how a new acquaintance will remember you. People who make others really feel comfortable take advantage of that parting moment to close the deal. Men have had it easier. They have done it with a smile, and a good firm handshake. What about women then? Over the last several years, women have started to take over that custom as well between themselves or with men. If you’re saying goodbye, you might want to give him or her a second extra hand squeeze. It’s a way to say, I really enjoyed meeting you. But it’s not all done with body language. If you’ve enjoyed being with someone, if you want to see that person again, don’t keep it a secret. Let people know how you feel, and they may walk away feeling as if they’ve known you half their life.
Okay, just to sum up. Today, we’ve talked about four ways to make people feel at ease in conversations. These skills are important in keeping conversations going, and in forming friendships later on. Of course, these skills are by no means the only ones we can use. The list is much longer. I hope you will use these four skills, and discover more on your own in your conversations with other people.
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listen
解析
此题考查要做一个good talker需掌握的第二种技巧,即:“一旦健谈的人问了问题,他们会倾听回答。”故填listen。
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