For the past several years, I have been immersed in the study of friendship, and among the many things I have learned, one idea

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问题     For the past several years, I have been immersed in the study of friendship, and among the many things I have learned, one idea stands out: If you truly want to change some aspect of your life, developing friendships with people who aspire to the same goals as you do can lead to more successful endeavors than embarking on solitary efforts.
    Shortly after we make a decision to change our behavior, we often sense a softening of what at first felt like ironclad conviction. We chastise ourselves for our inability to summon motivation and return to the poor habits we’re trying to break to comfort us, actively undermining our goals. What a disheartening cycle. But research shows that having friends with the same goal can interrupt that cycle.
    Researchers James Fowler and Nicholas Christakis have demonstrated that weight loss (and gain) spreads through friend groups, most likely via a process of altered norms. It’s not that you’ll necessarily adopt your friend’s new habits right away, but the seed will be planted. If you want to continue to feel close to her, you might even start adjusting your own routines (perhaps unconsciously) to align them more with hers.
    Friends can help you reinforce individual willpower. In The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg recommends replacing the cues that trigger, and the rewards that follow, bad behaviors with new, healthier ones. The cue and reward of a real person knocking on your door for a joint jog, and a stimulating talk over coffee afterwards, is a particularly alluring replacement for whatever previously sucked you into sedentary TV watching.
    In a recent New York Times column, "How People Change," David Brooks noted that, "There’s a research suggesting that it’s best to tackle negative behaviors indirectly, by redirecting attention toward different, positive ones." Investing in fulfilling friendships with those who have the values and habits you admire will lift you up to those friends’ level more easily.
    The desire to be with, be like, and be liked by friends is primal. We’re all built to seek out strong bonds with friends on whom our very survival might have once been dependent. While we don’t necessarily need friends to help hunt or fight off predators these days, most of us probably still feel like we can’t live without them. Tap into that deep-down social motivation and you’ll not only be primed for success, you’ll take pleasure in the proverbial journey.
The example of joint jog is mentioned in Paragraph 4 to demonstrate that_____.

选项 A、friends help personal determination become stronger
B、contact with real person can be extremely rewarding
C、long-time TV watching is less alluring than sports
D、an encouraging talk over coffee enhances individual will

答案A

解析 根据题干可直接定位到第四段。该段①句指出“朋友能帮助增强个人意志,随后用与人相约慢跑、喝咖啡聊天的例子来论证朋友能帮助增强个人意志这一观点,A项与此相符。
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