If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it may explain at least one of their shared beliefs: Men and women can’t be real

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问题     If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it may explain at least one of their shared beliefs: Men and women can’t be real friends. Many may point to the jealousy that plagues many rational people when a significant other befriends someone of the opposite sex. Boil it down to the inherent differences between the sexes. It just can’t be done. Is it right?
    Wrong, say relationship experts. "The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance," explains Linda Sapadin, Ph. [D], a psychologist in private practice in Valley Stream, New York. "Now they work together and have sports interests together and socialize together." This cultural shift is encouraging psychologists, sociologists and communications experts to put forth a new message: though it may be tricky, men and women can successfully become close friends. What’s more, there are good reasons for them to do so.
    Society has long singled out romance as the prototypical male-female relationship because it spawns babies and keeps the life cycle going; cross-sex friendship, as researchers call it, has been either ignored or trivialized. We have rules for how to act in romantic relationships (flirt, date, get married, have kids) and even same-sex friendships (boys relate by doing activities together, girls by talking and sharing). But there are so few platonic male-female friendships on display in our culture that we’re at a loss even to define these relationships.
    A certain 1989 film starring Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal convinced a nation of moviegoers that romance always comes between men and women, making true friendship impossible. "When Harry Met Sally set the potential for male-female friendship back about 25 years," says Michael Monsour, Ph. D., assistant professor of communications at the University of Colorado at Denver and author of Women and Men as Friends: Relationships across the Life Span in the 21st Century. "Almost every time you see a male-female friendship, it winds up turning into romance."
    In 1989, Don O’Meara, Ph. D., a sociology professor at the University of Cincinnati-Raymond Walters College, published a landmark study in the journal Sex Roles on the top impediments to cross-sex friendship. Among several challenges he pointed out in his research, society may not be entirely ready for friendships between men and women that have no sexual subtext. People with close friends of the opposite sex are often barraged with nudging, winking and skepticism: "Are you really just friends?" This is especially true, says O’Meara, of older adults, who grew up when men and women were off-limits to each other until marriage.
What do some relationship experts think about male-female friendships?

选项 A、They can only be friends in the workplace.
B、Their friendships would finally turn into romances.
C、It is totally possible that friendships exist between males and females.
D、Men and women can’t be real friends.

答案C

解析 观点态度题;在考研的阅读理解的题目中,除了询问作者的观点和态度之外,也开始考查文章引用的某些人的观点和态度。通过对于原文中这些人际关系专家的说法,我们可以知道,他们认为男女之间是可以成为朋友的。同时他们也分析了在过去为什么男女之间不会有真正的友情的原因。4个选项中,A选项来自原文“another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace”的说法,但原文这里说的是过去的情况,而且A选项本身的诠释和原文也是有出入的。B选项来自原文“the only way they could get together was for romance”,同样是在讲述之前的事情,而不是现在的情况,也需要排除。C选项符合原文的观点,是正确选项。D选项与C选项观点相反,比较容易排除。
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