Many parents who welcome the idea of turning off the TV and spending more time with the family are still worried that without TV

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问题     Many parents who welcome the idea of turning off the TV and spending more time with the family are still worried that without TV they would constantly be on call as entertainers for their children. They remember thinking up all sorts of things to do when they were kids. But their kids seem different, less resourceful, somehow. When there’s nothing to do, these parents observe regretfully their kids seem unable to come up with anything to do besides turning on the TV.

    One father, for example, says, "When I was a kid, we were always thinking up things to do, projects and games. We certainly never complained in an annoying way to our parents, ’I have nothing to do!’" He compares this with his own children today, "They’re simply lazy. If someone doesn’t entertain them, they’ll happily sit there watching TV all day. "
    There is one word for this father’s disappointment: unfair. It is as if he were disappointed in them for not reading Greek though they have never studied the language. He deplore his children’s lack of inventiveness, as if the ability to play were something innate that his children are missing. In fact, while the tendency to play is built into the human species, the actual ability to play — to imagine, to invent, to elaborate on reality in a playful way — and the ability to gain fulfillment from it, are skills that have to be learned and developed.
    Such disappointment, however, is not only unjust, it is also destructive. Sensing their parents’ disappointment, children come to believe that they are, indeed, lacking something, and that this makes them less worthy of admiration and respect. Giving children the opportunity to develop new resources, to enlarge their horizons and discover the pleasures of doing things on their own is, on the other hand, a way to help children develop a confident feeling about themselves as capable and interesting people.
When parents show constant disappointment in their children, the destructive effect is that the children will______.

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答案lose self-confidence

解析 最后一段说这位父亲的失望不仅不公平,而且有害。当孩子们感受到父母的失望时,他们就会逐渐相信他们确实缺少一点什么,反之,会帮助他们建立一种confident feeling,综合起来得出严重的后果是孩子们丧失了自信心。
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