I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the

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问题    I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the people I consider my friends don’t consider me theirs in return. Of course, I already knew unbalanced friendships existed. But in every case I can think of, it’s me who’s not especially invested, and the other person who doesn’t realise it. I’m not supposed to be the desperate one. Yet if studies such as this are correct, the phenomenon is so widespread that it’s highly unlikely I’m an exception. 【F1】As with the famous finding that almost everyone thinks they’re in the top 60% of safe drivers, we can’t all be the ones with an accurate sense of who really likes us.
   And if we’re stumbling through life with such a distorted understanding of our social circles, where does that leave all the other received wisdom about friendship’s importance? 【F2】It has been found that friends keep us mentally healthy, alive for longer, less vulnerable to depression and more financially successful—but how much of that comes from actually having friends, versus believing that you do?
   Perhaps it shouldn’t be surprising to learn that, when it comes to friendship, we’re in the grip of an ego-boosting mistaken belief. 【F3】People with healthy self-esteem habitually overestimate both their interpersonal skills and their control over events; some psychologists argue that mildly depressed people have a more accurate grasp of their abilities than the non-depressed. To thrive in the world, it’s often more useful to feel good about yourself than it is to see things as they are.
   Oh, and one more reason not to go mad about the thought that your "friends" might secretly not like you: this particular study, as with so many in social psychology, focused on university students. It’s well-known that our social circles shrink as we mature. 【F4】But isn’t it possible that this shrinkage is better thought of as a kind of separating, as we zero in on those friendships that are actually reciprocated? There are certainly reasons to worry about a loneliness crisis among the elderly, but having only a few friends may not be good evidence for it 【F5】If I make it to my final years with only a handful of friendships, because life has filtered them down to the ones that really count, I’m not sure I’d call that a sad state of affairs. I’d call it an efficient use of my remaining time.
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答案有研究发现,朋友能使人保持心理健康,延长寿命,提高抗抑郁能力,并获得更好的收入——但这些好处有多少是你真正拥有的朋友或者你自认为是朋友的人所带来的?

解析 ①本句是由but连接的两个分句组成,其中分句1包含一个主语从句。②it has been found that…中it为形式主语,that引导的内容是句子的真正主语,即friends keep us…successful has been found。③keep sb.+a.,表示“使某人保持……”,此句中keep连续接四个形容词:heathy,alive,vulnerable和successful,均为us的宾语补足语。④破折号后是but连接的分句2,是对分句1进行补充,其中that指代前面整个句子,即“朋友使人……”这个事实。comes from表示原因,作者列举了两个原因,形成对比,一个是actually having friends,一个是believing that you do,do指have friends,分别为“实际拥有的朋友”、“自认为是朋友的人”。
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