首页
外语
计算机
考研
公务员
职业资格
财经
工程
司法
医学
专升本
自考
实用职业技能
登录
外语
When Mom and Dad Grow Old [A]The prospect of talking to increasingly fragile parents about their future can be "one of the most
When Mom and Dad Grow Old [A]The prospect of talking to increasingly fragile parents about their future can be "one of the most
admin
2018-10-16
47
问题
When Mom and Dad Grow Old
[A]The prospect of talking to increasingly fragile parents about their future can be "one of the most difficult challenges adult children will ever face," says Clarissa Green, a Vancouver therapist. "People often tell me they don’t want to raise sensitive issues with their parents about bringing in caregivers or moving," she says. "They’ll say, ’I don’t want to see Dad cry.’" But Green usually responds, "What’s wrong with that?" Adult children, she says, need to try to join their parents in grieving their decline, acknowledge their living arrangements may no longer work and, if necessary, help them say goodbye to their beloved home. "It’s sad. And it’s supposed to be. It’s about death itself."
[B]There are almost four million men and women over age 65 in Canada. Nearly two thirds of them manage to patch together enough support—from family, friends, private and government services—to live independently until virtually the day they die, according to Statistics Canada.
[C]Of the Canadian seniors who live to 85 and over, almost one in three end up being moved—sometimes kicking—to group living for the last years of their lives. Even in the best-case scenarios(可能出现的情况), such dislocations can bring sorrow. "Often the family feels guilty, and the senior feels abandoned," says Charmaine Spencer, a professor in the gerontology department of Simon Eraser University. Harassed with their own careers and children, adult children may push their parents too fast to make a major transition.
[D]Val MacDonald, executive director of the B.C. Seniors Services Society, cautions adult children against imposing their views on aging parents. "Many baby boomers can be quite patronizing(高人一等的)," she says. Like many who work with seniors, MacDonald suggests adult children devote many conversations over a long period of time to collaborating on their parents’ future, raising feelings, questions and options—gently, but frankly. However, many middle-aged adults, according to the specialists, just muddle(应付)through with their aging parents.
[E]When the parents of Nancy Woods of Mulmur Hills, Ont., were in their mid-80s, they made the decision to downsize from their large family home to an apartment in Toronto. As Woods’s parents, George and Bernice, became frailer, she believed they knew she had their best interests at heart. They agreed to her suggestion to have Meals on Wheels start delivering lunches and dinners. However, years later, after a crisis, Woods discovered her parents had taken to throwing out the prepared meals. Her dad had appreciated them, but Bernice had come to believe they were poisoned. "My father was so loyal," says Woods, "he had hid that my mother was overwhelmed by paranoia(偏执狂)." To her horror, Woods discovered her dad and mom were "Irving on crackers and oatmeal porridge" and were weakening from the impoverished diet Her dad was also falling apart with the stress of providing for Bernice—a common problem when one spouse tries to do everything for an ailing partner. "The spouse who’s being cared for might be doing well at home," says Spencer, "but often the other spouse is burned out and ends up being hospitalized."
[F]Fortunately, outside help is often available to people struggling through the often-distressing process of helping their parents explore an important shift. Sons and daughters can bring in brochures or books on seniors’ issues, as well as introduce government health-care workers or staff at various agencies, to help raise issues and open up discussions, says Val MacDonald, whose nonprofit organization responds to thousands of calls a year from British Columbians desperate for information about how to weave through the dizzying array of seniors services and housing options. The long list of things to do, says MacDonald, includes assessing their ability to live independently: determining your comfort level with such things as bathing a parent: discussing with all household members whether it would be healthy for an elderly relative to move in: monitoring whether, out of pure duty, you’re overcommitting yourself to providing a level of care that could threaten your own well-being.
[G]The shock phone call that flung Nancy Woods and her parents into action came from her desperate dad. "I got this call from my father that he couldn’t cope anymore. My mother was setting fires in the apartment," she says. "He didn’t want to see it for what it was. Up to then he’d been in denial."
[H]Without knowing she was following the advice of experts who recommend using outside sources to stimulate frank discussion with parents, Woods grabbed a copy of The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for Persons With Alzheimer Disease, Related Dementing Illnesses, and Memory Loss in Later Life. She read sections of the book to her dad and asked him, "Who does that sound like?" Her father replied, "It’s Mother. It’s dementia(痴呆)." At that point, Woods said, her dad finally recognized their tragic plight. She told her father she would help them move out of their apartment. "He nodded. He didn’t yell or roar. He took it on the chin(忍受痛苦)."
[I]Woods regrets that she "had not noticed small details signalling Mom’s dementia." But she’s satisfied her dad accepted his passage into a group residence, where he and his wife could stay together in a secure unit where staff were trained to deal with patients with dementia. "From the moment they moved into the Toronto nursing home, their physical health improved. On the other hand, it was the beginning of the end in terms of their mental abilities. Perhaps they couldn’t get enough stimulation. Perhaps it was inevitable."
[J]After my father died in 2002, the grim reality of my mother’s sharply declining memory set in starkly. With her expanding dementia, Mom insisted on staying in her large North Shore house, even though she was confused about how to cook, organize her day or take care of herself. For the next three years we effectively imposed decisions on her, most of them involving bringing in caregivers, including family members. In 2005 Mom finally agreed, although she barely knew what was happening, to move to a nearby nursing home, where, despite great confusion, she is happier.
[K]As Spencer says, the sense of dislocation that comes with making an important passage can be "a very hard adjustment for a senior at the best of times. But it’s worse if it’s not planned out."
Adult children can make use of outside sources to help their parents make an important shift.
选项
答案
F
解析
根据题目中的outside sources和an important shift定位至F段。该段第1句是段落主题句,指出成年子女在帮助父母适应生活上重大转变的过程中,可以从外界寻找帮助。本题句子中的make use of是原文is…avaliable to的近义表达,outside sources与原文outside help对应。
转载请注明原文地址:https://kaotiyun.com/show/55H7777K
0
大学英语六级
相关试题推荐
Whenyouthinkaboutthegrowthofhumanpopulationoverthelastcenturyorso,itisalltooeasytoimagineitmerelyasani
Naturally,inagroupofanimalsasdiverseasthesnakes,andwithsomanyvariedenemies,therearenumerousdefensivereactio
Usingacomputerorsmartphoneatnightcancauseustopileonthepounds,newresearchhasrevealed.Thestudyfoundalinkbe
A、Supermarket.B、Yard.C、Restaurant.D、Hotel.A细节题。Sherrill说Iworkpart-timeatthesupermarket.即她在超市做兼职。此题B为干扰项,但在园圃工作的是Fill。因此
Sugar—FriendVSEnemyA)Sugariseverywhere.It’sinourdrinks,it’sinourfoods,andit’shiddeninplacesweneverwouldthi
A、Youcanunderstandmoreaboutyourplaceinthesociety.B、Youcanknowmoreaboutyourself.C、Youcananticipatemoreexcitem
A)TheSupremeCourtunambiguouslyruledWednesdaythatprivacyrightsarenotsacrificedto21stcenturytechnology,sayingunan
Parents’Homework:FindPerfectTeachersforKidsA)TomiHalldidwhatshecouldtolobbyforthebestteachersforhertwochil
A、Commitmoreseriouscrimes.B、Gototravelinanothercountry.C、Findanewplacetosteal.D、Becomeateacherofpickpockets.
TowardstheendofJune,auniquejointexpeditionbeganinthewatersnearIndonesia.Inanareaofremarkablemarinediversity
随机试题
关于复代理,下列说法正确的是()。
儿童患流行性腮腺炎最常见的并发症是
患者,女性,33岁。卵巢囊肿摘除术后,疼痛剧烈,医嘱“哌替啶50mg,im,prn”,此医嘱属于
(2008)当光投射到漫反射表面的照度相同时,下列哪个反射比的亮度最高?
背景:某宾馆工程,建筑面积3.0万m2,剪力墙结构,地下1层,地上10层,檐高42m,内部系统齐全,智能化程度高,均由专业分包施工。工程计划于2011年3月开工,2012年12月竣工,在验收过程中发生了如下事件:事件一:由于建设单位急于使用,而其他工作
小路今年15岁,初中毕业考上了职业中专。由于父母离异,法院将其判给了爸爸。但是爸爸很快为小路找了个继母,继母对小路并不好,不让爸爸给小路筹集学费。而小路的生母,由于一直没有一个很好的工作,也没钱供小路上学。学费问题严重困扰着小路。小路面临的心理问题主要
公安行政赔偿是指公安机关及其人民警察违法行使行政职权,侵犯公民、法人和其他组织合法权益造成损害时,由国家承担的赔偿。()
[2003年MPA真题]统计表明,美国亚利桑那州死于肺病的人的比例大于其他的州死于肺病的人的比例,因为亚利桑那州的气候更容易引起肺病。以下哪项最能反驳上述论证?
在面向对象的程序设计中,下列叙述中错误的是
刘涛是某网络安全公司的技术骨干,应某高校的邀请,他将在本周日到学校向同学们讲解与黑客技术相关的知识。假如你是刘涛的助手,请根据考生文件夹下“Word素材文件.docx”中的内容,帮他完成文档的排版工作。具体要求如下:(1)在考生文件夹下,将“Word素材
最新回复
(
0
)