Growing up, I earned my best marks for playing well with others. For my husband, I lived in three different countries in five ye

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问题     Growing up, I earned my best marks for playing well with others. For my husband, I lived in three different countries in five years, and while abroad, I easily sparked friendships by starting book clubs and hosting girls’ nights. When it came to making friends, I had never failed—until the birth of my first child.
    My husband and I relocated from Moscow to Alexandria in 2006. I gave birth to our daughter, Eloise, that December. Soon after her arrival, I sought friendships in places where I thought I could meet cool new moms. In mommy-and-me yoga class, Eloise and I lunched with the yoga ladies and their babies with regularity, and true to form, I hosted my first yoga-moms playgroup. Months passed, and Eloise and I became a fixture on the playgroup circuit. The moms and I talked and shared nursing nightmares and milestone moments. One year after moving to Alexandria, I measured my social success by the large number of guests at our backyard picnic. But as I walked the crowd, I realized that my eyes had glazed over and my mind had wandered away from many of the conversations. My new so-called friends surrounded me, but with little to say to these ladies outside of playgroup, I realized I had only created the appearance of friendships.
    As a new mom in my early 30s, I longed for the friendship bonds I had enjoyed in my 20s. Times of change and stress had always sent me running into the arms of family and my best girlfriends from high school and college, a small group of women I have laughed and cried with for more than 15 years. According to research and my own experiences, women seek comfort in other females during times of stress. Like many new moms, work and family demands had separated me from my closest girlfriends. I thought that having a baby would increase my circle of close friends, but despite a supportive husband, hundreds of Facebook friends and a full mommy-and-me schedule, I felt like a high schooler alone at the lunch table. I struggled for months to turn my new acquaintances into real friends. And add to my baby-talk tiredness a weird episode, in which one playgroup mom breast-fed another’s baby, and an uncomfortable request from another, who asked me to hide financial and immigration papers from her cheating husband, and I started to rethink these friendship.
    Eventually, I divorced the yoga-moms playgroup because I realized that it takes more than a baby in common to develop a true friendship. I decided to spend quality time with Eloise and people we really enjoyed—like my neighbor who is 20 years older than me and has kids in college—rather than force false relationships to fill up my mommy-and-me schedule.
In Alexandria, what could serve as the author’s ruler for her successful friendship?

选项 A、The sum of guests attending her backyard gathering.
B、The amount of experience that the mums were willing to share with her.
C、The short time between the birth and her going out to seek friendship.
D、The sensitivity that she might meet cool mums in yoga class.

答案A

解析 事实细节题。文中提到,作者搬到亚历山大一年后,她用后院中野餐会参与人数的众多来衡量社交成就。题干中ruler forher successful friendship是对原文中measured my social success的同义表达,因此A)“后院聚会参与的人数”是作者成功的社交成就的标尺。
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