Because conflict and disagreements are parts of all close relationships, couples need to learn strategies for managing conflict

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问题     Because conflict and disagreements are parts of all close relationships, couples need to learn strategies for managing conflict in a healthy and constructive way. Some couples just avoid and deny the presence of any conflict in a relationship. However, denying the existence of conflict results in couples failing to solve their problems at early stages, which can then lead to even greater problems later on. Not surprisingly, expressing anger and disagreement leads to lower marital(婚姻的)satisfaction at the beginning. However, this pattern of behavior predicts increases in marital satisfaction over time. Research suggests that working through conflicts is an important predictor of marital satisfaction.
    So, what can you do to manage conflict in your own relationships?
    First, try to understand the other person’ s point of view and put yourself in his or her place. People who are sensitive to what their partner thinks and feels experience greater relationship satisfaction. For example, researchers found that among people in dating relationships as well as marriages, those who can adopt their partner’ s perspective show more positive emotions, more relationship-enhancing attributes and more constructive responses to conflict.
    Second, because conflict and disagreements are an inevitable part of close relationships. People need to be able to apologize to their partner for wrongdoing and receive forgiveness from their parents for their own acts. Apologies minimize conflict, lead to forgiveness, and serve to restore relationship closeness. In line with this view, spouses who are more forgiving show higher mental quality over time. Increasingly, apologizing can even have positive health benefits. For example, when people reflect on hurtful memories and grudges, they show negative physiological effects, including increased heart rate and blood pressure, compared to when they reflect on sympathetic perspective-taking and forgiving.
There are some ways to solve the problems and conflict in a relationship except______.

选项 A、trying to understand your partner’ s point of view
B、putting yourself in his or her place
C、apologizing to their partner for wrongdoing
D、sticking to your own decision and not adopt your partner’ s view

答案D

解析 由第二段第二句“First,try to understand…his or her place.”可知,A、B两项均是正确的做法;由第三段第二句“People need to be able to…”可知,C项是正确的做法;由第二段倒数第一句中的“those who can adopt their partner’s perspective show more positive emotions…”可知,D项不是正确做法。因此,正确答案为D。
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