The word hug is of uncertain origin. The Oxford English Dictionary cautions against confusing it with hugge—a variant of the Mid

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问题     The word hug is of uncertain origin. The Oxford English Dictionary cautions against confusing it with hugge—a variant of the Middle English ug, meaning "to inspire with dread, loathing, or disgust." Nevertheless, I find myself drawn to the possibility that hug does, in fact, have some kinship with ug. It seems apt to me. At the prospect of a tight embrace, dread and loathing, if not disgust, do come to mind. So does the sound ug.
    So why is it that when I go over to your house for dinner, you wrap your arms around me, even though I saw you last Friday at the movies? And why do you come at me again after the meal is over, even though we hugged not three hours ago and I’ll probably see you next week? It’s not that I don’t like you—I do—but it’s such an awkward interaction. One arm or two? Should there be space between us? How much? Should I brush my cheek against yours? Maybe even kiss your cheek? And for how long, exactly, should we be touching?
    I’m willing to believe that some people really love to hug. They rush to enfold not only family and friends but also friends of friends and near strangers. Yet most people are just going through the motions; they’re looking for a way to say hello or goodbye, and so they open their arms wide. Not wanting to seem rude, I submit to this ritual of friendship. That, or I make sure I’m carrying something heavy.
    After one particularly confounding interaction, I looked for expert counsel. An advice columnist, Emily Yoffe, offered her sympathy: "I’ve become a non-hugger who hugs. Recently after breakfast with a new friend, I went in to hug her goodbye, and I could see a kind of horror in her eyes, but it was too late to back off and say, ’ I’m really not a hugger either. ’" That’s me: the girl with the look of horror in her eyes.
    The Emily Post Institute, which specializes in manners, explains that when greeting someone, you should look him or her in the eyes and smile, speak clearly, say the person’s name, add a "glad to see you" or "how’s it going?" and then shake hands with a firm grip, pump two or three times, and then release. The institute suggests adding a hug "if it’s a relative or close friend. " No mention of friends of friends or friends’ dates. Nor any specific information on what a proper hug entails.
    There are several hug alternatives, among them: the handshake, the cheek kiss, the wave, the arm squeeze, and the nod. Handshakes seem formal, cheek kisses un-American, waves rather odd. Arm squeezing would be a good solution if it weren’t for the danger of getting pulled into something more full-bodied. The nod, though, can be very effective when combined with a smile, especially when executed with confidence and with one hand already grasping the door handle.
About the ritual of embrace, the experts

选项 A、have a uniformed concept.
B、feel embarrassed and uneasy.
C、advise people to use other rites.
D、fail to give an explicit definition.

答案D

解析 细节题。根据题干关键词,可定位至第四、五段。第四段讲述了一位专家使用拥抱礼时遇到的尴尬局面,第五段引证了专业礼仪研究机构对日常礼节的描述,但在最后一句指出:该机构对于适当的拥抱应包含哪些内容也没有提供信息。故[D]“未给出明确界定”为本题答案。由这两段相关内容可知,作者没有提及专家们对拥抱礼是否形成了统一的看法,故排除[A];[B]“感到尴尬和不安”仅适用于第四段事例中的专家,不能推而广之,排除;对日常见面应采用其他礼仪的建议是作者提出的,而不是专家提出的,故排除[C]。
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