首页
外语
计算机
考研
公务员
职业资格
财经
工程
司法
医学
专升本
自考
实用职业技能
登录
外语
Stop Being a People Pleaser 1. Say "no" Give reasons instead of【T1】excuses【T1】______ Examples It’s stressful to【T2】a large famil
Stop Being a People Pleaser 1. Say "no" Give reasons instead of【T1】excuses【T1】______ Examples It’s stressful to【T2】a large famil
admin
2018-02-08
53
问题
Stop Being a People Pleaser
1. Say "no"
Give reasons instead of【T1】excuses【T1】______
Examples
It’s stressful to【T2】a large family【T2】______
Say "【T3】" when declining a party invitation【T3】______
Start small and say it firmly and【T4】【T4】______
2.【T5】your boundaries【T5】______
Compare your boundaries to limits you set on others
Decide what is unacceptable,【T6】, abnormal【T6】______
How it feels to be treated with【T7】【T7】______
3. Re-examine your【T8】【T8】______
Help other because of willingness
Kindness: by choice, not because of【T9】【T9】______
Am I wise when helping others yet neglecting myself?
Is my action【T10】【T10】______?
【T8】
Stop Being a People Pleaser
Good afternoon. Today’s topic might speak to a lot of you here: Are you a people pleaser? Are you sick of being "too nice"? If you happen to be a people pleaser, then people are always taking advantage of you. You’re also probably not getting what you want out of life. Stop thinking about what would make others happy and focus on what you need. It’s time to shift the focus from others to yourself.
You could start with saying "no". [1]Don’t make up excuses—give your reasons for not wanting something. For example, your husband wants his entire family to come to Christmas dinner, and you just can’t face it. [2]Say, "I’m sorry darling, I find the pressure of entertaining such a large number of people intolerable."
Your best friend wants you to go with him to a party that will be full of people that you can’t stand? [3]Say, "No thanks, Bob. It’s just not my scene." You don’t have to say "Seriously, Bob? Your friends are all jerks." [3]A simple "no, thanks" will generally suffice.
Start small by finding something small to say "no" to, [4]and say it firmly. Say it politely, but mean it! You’ll be surprised the world will not collapse around your ears! People rarely take offense, and those that do aren’t worth pleasing.
[5]Then, constantly evaluate your boundaries. Compare those to the limits you set on others. To what extent are you willing to restrict your openness to being used by others? What is acceptable behavior for you and what is unacceptable? Being able to analyze this factor allows you to measure what can be done for others and what shouldn’t be done for others in a much more objective manner. Is that the same for you and for others? Do you accept the unacceptable? [6]Tolerate the intolerable? Normalize the abnormal? [7]Do you know what it feels like to be treated with dignity and respect? Learn how to identify and label unacceptable treatment from others and how to set limits on their behavior when they violate your boundaries.
[8]Last but not least, stop basing your self-worth on how much you do for other people. It’s noble that you want to help others, but it’s something you should do because you want to, not because you feel you have to. The willingness to help others should come after you know how to help yourself.
[9]The greatest acts of kindness are those done by choice, not out of fear or guilt. If you’re helping others to such an extent that you are neglecting yourself, is that really wise? [10]And, if you’re doing things for others because you would feel bad if you didn’t, is the action really genuine? Would you want others to help you for the same reason?
Please remember: never think that the world around you will collapse if you fail to please a person. After all, it can be difficult to improve your own life when you’re too busy accommodating others.
选项
答案
self-worth
解析
本题考查对信息的理解和整合。录音的第三个要点为:不要用“自己能给别人多大的帮助”来定义自己的价值。而提纲里用的是概括性的动词re-examine,即应重新审视自己的自我价值(self-worth)。
转载请注明原文地址:https://kaotiyun.com/show/WuDK777K
0
专业英语四级
相关试题推荐
GoodWritingEducatorsinEnglish-speakingcountrieshavedevelopedasetofbasiccharacteristicsofgoodEnglishwriting—u
InterculturalLearningI.Introduction—gapbetweenlanguageteachinginclassandintherealworld—【T1】ofinterculturalawa
Educationiswhatyouhaveleftafterall______isforgotten.
Itwasonlyafewweeksaftermysurgery,andIwenttoDr.Belt’sofficeforacheckup.Itwasjustaftermyfirstchemotherapy
BritishEducationalSystemI.PrimaryandsecondaryeducationinBritain1)Childrengotoprimaryschoolattheageof【T1】.【T1】
WhatIsGrit?MyquestionsWhyisn’tI.Q.theonlydifferencebetweenstudents?Whatisthekeyto【T1】?【T1】______MyR
MakeYourHolidaysMoreMeaningfulI.Whattodobeforetheholidayseason1)【T1】______aweeklycalendar【T1】______2)starteli
A、Hehasjustgraduated.B、Hewillbegraduatingsoon.C、Heisgoingtoworkinuniversity.D、Hehasalreadystartedworking.B
IslandAnislandisabodyoflandsurroundedbywater./Continentsarealsosurroundedbywater,/butbecausetheyareso
Thelatestdiscs,usedforsmallportablecomputers,_______3,600timesaminute.
随机试题
下列哪味药是小青龙汤和竹叶石膏汤共同的组成成分
苯海拉明中枢镇静作用机制为( )。
A.由药品监督管理部门取消其定点批发资格,并依照药品管理法的有关规定处罚B.由药品监督管理部门责令改正,给予警告,没收违法交易的药品,并处罚款C.由设区的市级人民政府卫生主管部门责令限期改正,给予警告D.由县级以上人民政府卫生主管部门给予警告,暂停其
2001年9月至2002年5月间,广东省某地戒毒所的领导人及管教人员,与当地“鸡头”建立“合作关系”,违背关押人员本人意愿,强行将多名在该所戒毒的青年女子“出售”给“鸡头”从事卖淫活动,并从中收取“赎金”人单位账后私分给员工用于单位福利。则该戒毒所的管教人
杜威主张学校即社会、教育即生长、教育即经验的改组或改造,这三个命题揭示的教育观不包括
Teamsarerequiredformostengineeringprojects.Althoughsomesmallhardwareorsoftwareproductscanbedevelopedbyindividua
目前数码相机中用于存储所拍摄相片的大多是【43】存储器,假设一台数码相机一次可连续拍摄65536色的1024×1024的彩色相片80张,数据压缩比平均是4,则它使用的存储器容量大约是【44】MB。
Thispartistotestyourabilitytodopracticalwriting.Youarerequiredtowriteapersonaldatasheetaccordingtothefoll
Madewithwildsementrichosanthis(—食品名)growingintheremotemountainsatthesouthbankofTaihuLake,theproducthasfragra
Priortothe20thcentury,womeninnovelswere____________(屈从天种种束缚)imposedbythemale-dominatedculture.
最新回复
(
0
)