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5 ways to have a better conversation Introduction Why can’t people have a better conversation these days? a study —
5 ways to have a better conversation Introduction Why can’t people have a better conversation these days? a study —
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2022-07-27
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5 ways to have a better conversation
Introduction
Why can’t people have a better conversation these days?
a study
— the balance between【T1】________ is lost.
a high school teacher
— The skill of【T2】_______ might be overlooked
5 Rules to have a better conversation
【T3】________
— being【T4】________
don’t【T5】________ like you are always right
— entering talks assuming you can【T6】________
— 【T7】________ yourself and your opinions.
let【T8】________ come in and out of your mind
— e.g. interviews in which the host【T9】________ to think of a good question.
— e.g. causal talks in which the listener stops listening to【T10】________ a celebrity.
don’t【T11】________ your experience with theirs.
— experiences are【T12】_______ and it’s not about you.
listen
— the most important and yet ignored skill
— we would rather【T13】________
— We get【T14】________
Conclusion
You should be interested in other people: keep your mouth shut and your mind open, and be ready to【T15】________
【T14】
5 Ways to Have a Better Conversation
All right, I want to see a show of hands: how many of you have unfriended someone on Facebook because they said something offensive about politics or religion, childcare, food? And how many of you know at least one person that you avoid because you just don’t want to talk to them?
These days, every conversation has the potential to devolve into an argument. Pew Research did a study of 10,000 American adults, and they found that at this moment, we are more polarized and divided than we ever have been in history. We’re less likely to compromise. And we make decisions based on what we already believe. It means we’re not listening to each other.
A conversation requires a balance between talking and listening, and somewhere along the way, we lost that balance.
A high school teacher named Paul Barnwell wrote in The Atlantic, "I came to realize that
conversational competence might be the single most overlooked skill we fail to teach.
Kids spend hours each day engaging with ideas and each other through screens, but rarely do they have an opportunity to hone their interpersonal communications skills. It might sound like a funny question, but we have to ask ourselves: Is there any 21st-century skill more important than being able to sustain coherent, confident conversation? "
We’ve all had really great conversations. We know what it’s like. The kind of conversation where you walk away feeling engaged and inspired, or where you feel like you’ve made a real connection or you’ve been perfectly understood. There is no reason why most of your interactions can’t be like that. So I have 5 basic rules. I’m going to walk you through all of them, but honestly, if you just choose one of them and master it, you’ll already enjoy better conversations.
Number one:
Don’t multitask.
And I don’t mean just set down your cell phone or your tablet or your car keys or whatever is in your hand. I mean, be present. Be in that moment. Don’t think about your argument you had with your boss. Don’t think about what you’re going to have for dinner. If you want to get out of the conversation, get out of the conversation, but don’t be half in it and half out of it.
Number two:
Don’t state your opinions as if you are the only correct one.
If you want to state your opinion without any opportunity for response or argument or pushback or growth, write a blog.
You need to enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn.
The famed therapist M. Scott Peck said that true listening requires a setting aside of oneself. And sometimes that means setting aside your personal opinion.
He said that sensing this acceptance, the speaker will become less and less vulnerable and more and more likely to open up the inner recesses of his or her mind to the listener. Again, assume that you have something to learn.
Number three:
Go with the flow. That means thoughts will come into your mind and you need to let them go out of your mind.
We’ve heard interviews often in which a guest is talking for several minutes and then the host comes back in and asks a question which seems like it comes out of nowhere, or it’s already been answered.
That means the host probably stopped listening two minutes ago because he thought of this really clever question, and he was just bound and determined to say that.
And we do the exact same thing.
We’re sitting there having a conversation with someone, and then we remember that time that we met Hugh Jackman in a coffee shop. And we stop listening.
Stories and ideas are going to come to you. You need to let them come and let them go.
Number four:
Don’t equate your experience with theirs.
If they’re talking about having lost a family member, don’t start talking about the time you lost a family member. If they’re talking about the trouble they’re having at work, don’t tell them about how much you hate your job. It’s not the same. It’s never the same.
All experience are individual. And, more importantly, it is not about you.
You don’t need to take that moment to prove how amazing you are or how much you’ve suffered. Somebody asked Stephen Hawking once what his IQ was, and he said, "I have no idea. People who brag about their IQs are losers."
Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
Number five:
This is the most important one Listen.
I cannot tell you how many really important people have said that listening is perhaps the most, the number one most important skill that you could develop. But why do we not listen to each other?
Number one, we’d rather talk.
When I’m talking, I’m in control. I’m the center of attention. I can bolster my own identity.
But there’s another reason: We get distracted.
The average person talks at about 225 word per minute, but we can listen at up to 500 words per minute. So our minds are filling in those other 275 words. And look, I know, it takes effort and energy to actually pay attention to someone, but if you can’t do that, you’re not in a conversation. You’re just two people shouting out barely related sentences in the same place.
All of this boils down to the same basic concept, and it is this one: Be interested in other people. And honestly, I think it’s what makes me a better host. I keep my mouth shut as often as I possibly can, I keep my mind open,
and I’m always prepared to be amazed,
and I’m never disappointed.
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答案
distracted
解析
录音提到,我们不去倾听的另一个原因是我们的注意力被分散了(We get distracted),并解释到这是因为倾听时我们的脑袋需要去处理比说话多出一半的词汇,我们由此很容易分神。故此空可直接填入录音原词distracted。
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