I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the

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问题    I’m having a bit of an existential crisis. According to a new research, if I’m anything like the average person, around half the people I consider my friends don’t consider me theirs in return. Of course, I already knew unbalanced friendships existed. But in every case I can think of, it’s me who’s not especially invested, and the other person who doesn’t realise it. I’m not supposed to be the desperate one. Yet if studies such as this are correct, the phenomenon is so widespread that it’s highly unlikely I’m an exception. 【F1】As with the famous finding that almost everyone thinks they’re in the top 60% of safe drivers, we can’t all be the ones with an accurate sense of who really likes us.
   And if we’re stumbling through life with such a distorted understanding of our social circles, where does that leave all the other received wisdom about friendship’s importance? 【F2】It has been found that friends keep us mentally healthy, alive for longer, less vulnerable to depression and more financially successful—but how much of that comes from actually having friends, versus believing that you do?
   Perhaps it shouldn’t be surprising to learn that, when it comes to friendship, we’re in the grip of an ego-boosting mistaken belief. 【F3】People with healthy self-esteem habitually overestimate both their interpersonal skills and their control over events; some psychologists argue that mildly depressed people have a more accurate grasp of their abilities than the non-depressed. To thrive in the world, it’s often more useful to feel good about yourself than it is to see things as they are.
   Oh, and one more reason not to go mad about the thought that your "friends" might secretly not like you: this particular study, as with so many in social psychology, focused on university students. It’s well-known that our social circles shrink as we mature. 【F4】But isn’t it possible that this shrinkage is better thought of as a kind of separating, as we zero in on those friendships that are actually reciprocated? There are certainly reasons to worry about a loneliness crisis among the elderly, but having only a few friends may not be good evidence for it 【F5】If I make it to my final years with only a handful of friendships, because life has filtered them down to the ones that really count, I’m not sure I’d call that a sad state of affairs. I’d call it an efficient use of my remaining time.
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答案如果到了晚年,我的朋友所剩无几,因为岁月已帮我筛选留下了真正的朋友,我不认为我会把这称为一种悲凉的处境。

解析 ①本句是包含一个条件状语从句和一个原因状语从句的主从复合句,主句还包含了一个宾语从句。②it在这里指生命,make it to my final year指生命到晚年的时候;with only a handful of friendships是伴随状语,a handful强调“少”,即到了晚年,朋友越来越少。③because引导的原因状语从句解释前面的条件状语从句。filter…down to…表示“筛选至,过滤至……”;定语从句that really count修饰the ones,说明剩下的都是重要的朋友。④I’m not sure I’d call that a sad state of affairs中,that指朋友所剩不多这种情况;sad state of affairs意思是“一种悲凉的处境”。
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