The word "open" is really used a lot. You’ve probably heard "open up" in many ways over the years. Probably most people would li

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问题     The word "open" is really used a lot. You’ve probably heard "open up" in many ways over the years. Probably most people would like to be more open than they are right now. We know it feels good to share with others. If feels good to talk to somebody about things we’re concerned about. It’s good to be able to trust somebody.
    What do we really mean by becoming open? Well,trying to talk about yourself in such a way that something of the inner person,that is you,is communicated to others might be one way of being open or at least thinking about being open. That inner person is a complex person who has a variety of thoughts and also feelings. So,wanting to share with other people these inner feelings and these inner thoughts is one way of becoming open. Being open is a kind of invitation to others. What you share about yourself should encourage others to come in,so to speak and make contact with you. To involve themselves with you. Being open is difficult. It makes us feel vulnerable, psychologically naked and usually anxious. But it also is important in terms of really letting others get to understand how we think,how we feel and what we believe. We often hide our inner thoughts and feelings because we’re concerned how well excepted they’ll be by other people. But we also shut out other people from knowing and accepting us by not being open. We’re denying ourselves that chance to speak out,to declare our inner thoughts and feelings. It’s up to you to decide just how you’re going to talk about yourself and what you’re going to say. Telling somebody that school or work is awful. However,it might be more meaningful to share why you’re saying that about school or work. That’s at a little deeper level.
    There are probably more risks attached to sharing that. Probably most important is an immediate here and now honesty that goes along with being open. For instance,telling someone that you’re bored is risky,but it takes courage to say,"I’m bored,why don’t we do such and such?",or "Let’s change topics. "For me,declaring your boredom or resentments also means I’m responsible for suggesting alternatives to change my mood. You have the power to change things by being open and sharing things.
    Keep in mind also that being completely open with everyone in every situation may be very inappropriate. You may want to be more open with your spouse or close friends,but not with your boss or people you don’t know as well. You may choose not to be open with people you don’t fully trust, because to be open is to share vulnerable information about yourself. And if you don’t fully trust how someone else will use that information about you,you may choose not to share it. Also,some people may be very uncomfortable with too much openness and you may not want to be as open with them.
    A caution about being open is that sometimes we can be too open. In the name of being open we say everything we feel or think to others. But fail to be sensitive to others feelings about our openness. We may make them feel very uncomfortable or say something that hurts them. Being open also carries a responsibility with it and that is to be aware of others’ reactions to us and to respect their reactions.
Which of the following is NOT the consideration when being open?

选项 A、Paying attention to others’ reactions.
B、Not talking about something your partners are not interested in.
C、When you feel the topic uninteresting,you should suggest some other ones.
D、Avoiding to hurt others when we tell our feelings about them.

答案B

解析 推理题。根据文中In the name of being open we say everything we feel…may make them feel veryuncomfortable or say something that hurts them.可知,在坦诚的同时也应重视对方的感受,不要伤害到对方,[A]和[D]符合文意。另外,作者还建议declaring your boredom or resentments also means you’reresponsible for suggesting alternatives to change the mood.(在你表达厌恶和怨恨的同时,你也有责任提出改变情况的建议),故[C]符合文意。[B]在文中未涉及,故选[B]。
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