I had an experience some years ago which taught me something about the ways in which people make a bad situation worse by blamin

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问题     I had an experience some years ago which taught me something about the ways in which people make a bad situation worse by blaming themselves. One January, I had to officiate at two funerals on successive day s for two elderly women in my community. Both had died "full of years," as the Bible would say; both yielded to the normal wearing out of the body after a long and full life. Their homes happened to be near each other, so I paid condolence calls(吊唁)on the two families on the same afternoon.
    At the first home, the son of the deceased(已故的)woman said to me, " If only I had sent my mother to Florida and gotten her out of this cold and snow, she would be alive today. It’ s my fault that she died. " At the second home, the son of the other deceased woman said, " If only I hadn’ t insisted on my mother’ s going to Florida, she would be alive today. That long airplane ride, the abrupt change of climate, were more that she could take. It’ s my fault that she’ s dead.
    When things don’ t turn out as we would like them to, it is very tempting to assume that had we done things differently, the story would have had a happier ending Priests know that any time there is a death, the survivors will feel guilty. Because the course of action they took turned out badly, they believed that the opposite course—keeping Mother at home, postponing the operation— would have turned out better. After all, how could it have turned out any worse?
    Where seem to be two elements involved in our readiness to feel guilty. The first is our pressing need to believe that the world makes sense, that there is a cause for every effect and a reason for everything that happens. That leads us to find patterns and connections both where they really exist and where they exist only in our minds.
    The second element is the notion that we are the cause of what happens, especially the bad things that happen. It seems to be a short step from believing that every event has a cause and every disaster is our fault. The roots of this feeling may lie in our childhood. Psychologists speak of the infantile myth of omnipotence(万能). A baby comes to think that the world exists to meet his needs, and that he makes everything happen in it. He wakes up in the morning and summons the rest of the world to its tasks. He cries, and someone comes to attend to him. When he is hungry, people feed him, and when he is wet, people change him. Very often, we do not completely outgrow that infantile notion that our wishes cause things to happen.
What is said about the two deceased elderly women?

选项 A、They lived out a natural life.
B、They died of exhaustion after the long plane ride.
C、They weren’ t accustomed to the change in weather.
D、They died due to lack of care by family members.

答案A

解析 第一段第三句话“Both had died“full of years,”as the Bible would say;both yielded to thenormal wearing out of the body after a long and full life.”可看出两位已故女士是自然死亡。B是第二位女士的儿子的自责之言。C是第一位女士的儿子的自责之言。D文中并未提及。
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