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Most of us find the forgetting easier, but maybe we should work on the forgiving part. "Holding on to hurts and nursing grudges

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问题     Most of us find the forgetting easier, but maybe we should work on the forgiving part. "Holding on to hurts and nursing grudges wear you down physically and emotionally," says Stanford University psychologist Fred Luskin, author of Forgive for Good. "Forgiving someone can be a powerful antidote."
    In a recent study, Charlotte, assistant/associate professor of psychology at Hope College in Holland, Michigan; and this colleagues asked 71 volunteers to remember a past hurt. Tests recorded the highest blood pressure, heart rate and muscle tension—the same responses that occur when people are angry. Research has linked anger and heart disease. When the volunteers were asked to imagine empathizing, even forgiving those who had wronged them, they remained calm by comparison.
    What’s more, forgiveness can be learned, insists Luskin, director of the Stanford Forgive- ness Project, "We teach people to rewrite their story in their minds, to change from victim to he- m. If the hurt is from a spouse’s infidelity, we might encourage them to think of themselves not only as a person who was cheated on, but as the person who tried to keep the marriage together.
    Two years ago, Luskin tested his method on 5 Northern Irish women whose sons had been murdered. After undergoing a week of forgiveness training, the women’s sense of hurt, measured using psychological tests, had fallen by more than half. They were also much less likely to feel depressed and angry. "Forgiving isn’t about forgetting what happened," says Luskin. "It is about breaking free of the person who wronged us."
    The early signs that forgiving improves overall health are promising: A survey of 1,423 adults by the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research in 2001 found that people who had forgiven someone in their past also reported being in better health than those who hadn’t.
    However, while 75% said they were sure God had forgiven them for past mistakes, only
52% had been able to find it in their hearts to forgive others. Forgiveness; it seems, is still divine.
According to Luskin, if one’s husband is not loyal to her, she’d better ______.
选项 A、seek help from a therapist
B、try to keep the marriage together
C、clean forget what has happened
D、take it seriously
答案B
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