If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. Bu

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问题     If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.
    If you say to your children "I’m sorry I got angry with you, but ..." what follows that "but" can render the apology ineffective: "I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache" leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
    Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say "I’m sorry you’ re upset" : this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
    Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I’m useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
    These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.
    But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become a ware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’ s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’ s clothes without permission is not.
We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry______.

选项 A、the complexities involved should be ignored
B、their ages should be taken into account
C、parents need to set them a good example
D、parents should be patient and tolerant

答案B

解析 最后一段第一句话对此做了提示:children still need help to become aware ofthe complexities of saying sorry,意思是孩子们需要帮助来明白道歉的复杂性。但这一句的意义表达并不十分清晰,通过后来作者所举的三个例子,可知这句话的意思是孩子在分辨什么情况下该道歉什么情况下不需道歉的时候需要帮助。这样就排除了A,而C的说法是前5段的内容,D的说法在第四段里没有相关内容。第四段以三个年龄的孩子为例进行论述,这就说明应当把年龄问题加以考虑,B的说法正确。
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