Matthew Breuer has shared the passwords to his computer, email and social media accounts with every girlfriend he’s ever had. "I

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问题    Matthew Breuer has shared the passwords to his computer, email and social media accounts with every girlfriend he’s ever had. "I feel like it’s so much easier to live in a relationship where you know you have nothing to hide and are entirely 100 percent honest about who you are and what you’re doing," he says. "Times in my life when I’ve realized that something wasn’t working in my relationship coincided with times when I would be worried, ’Oh, do I really want to say this on Facebook to somebody else?’ It’s such a red flag if there’s something you’re concerned about your partner seeing. That means there’s some fundamental issue with your relationship beyond privacy."
   For Jasmine Tobie, a 29-year-old graduate student at the University of Oklahoma in Tulsa, seeing someone else’s misbehaviour via email has saved them from a toxic relationship. After finding some receipts that proved her boyfriend was lying to her about being on a business trip one weekend, she decided to look at his email to be sure before she pulled the plug on the relationship.
   In most circumstances, psychologists suggest keeping passwords private. "In relationships, we depend on each other for a lot of things, but it’s good and healthy to have some independence too," says Kelly Campbell, PhD, an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University. "The more you self-disclose, the happier you are. But the happiest couples have some degree of secrecy and privacy."
   Suzy, a 46-year-old mother living in Brooklyn, got into a dangerous situation years ago when her then-boyfriend started reading her emails. She hadn’t given him her password, but one day she forgot to log out and he checked her email. She hadn’t told him that she had created an online dating profile while they were apart. "He went through all my emails, including ones that I had thrown away. He went into every folder. He got really mad and basically attacked me," she says. "I ended up having to call an ambulance."
   Since, she says she’s never even considered sharing passwords with a significant other. "I now have this paranoia where I wouldn’t even share it even if I trusted someone. You never know what’s going to upset someone," she says. "I don’t know if that makes me less trusting or just wiser."
   Still, optimists like Breuer aren’t threatened by such horror stories. "I think sharing passwords honestly ends up affording you the privacy you want," Breuer says, pointing to a password manner that has developed between him and his partners in recent years. "Just because you tell somebody your password to things doesn’t mean they actually end up looking through your stuff." Breuer says he’s never changed his password after a breakup since he’s always trusted and respected those he has dated.
   But much of the tough negotiating about privacy goes out the door once you have kids. "Sure, a lot of people have found out about their significant other’s indiscretions by looking at the texts on that person’s phone," says Wiseman. "But once you have children, the constant checking of things with the other person to just get through the day—to get everyone to basketball practice on time—blows all of this privacy stuff out of the water."
   [A] holds that independence in relationships has positive effect to some degree.
   [B] pointed out that refusing to share passwords would create fundamental issue.
   [C] shows that having children can change people’s attitude toward privacy.
   [D] thinks that she had better not share passwords even though she trusts someone.
   [E] told her boyfriend her passwords to strengthen their relationship.
   [F] intended to end the relationship with her boyfriend after realizing he was lying to her.
   [G] believes that it is unnecessary to change passwords after a breakup.
Kelly Campbell

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答案A

解析 Kelly Campbell出现在文中第三段。该段第二句中,Kelly Campbell说:“在恋爱关系中,恋人在许多事情上彼此依靠,但是保留一定的独立性是有益的,也是健康的。”A中的independence和in relationships都是文中的原词复现,positive effect是对原文it’s good and healthy的概括,故确定A为本题的正确答案。
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