首页
外语
计算机
考研
公务员
职业资格
财经
工程
司法
医学
专升本
自考
实用职业技能
登录
外语
Five Common Mistakes in Conversation and Their Solutions I. Not listening A. Problem: most people don’t listen — wait eagerly f
Five Common Mistakes in Conversation and Their Solutions I. Not listening A. Problem: most people don’t listen — wait eagerly f
admin
2019-03-26
62
问题
Five Common Mistakes in Conversation and Their Solutions
I. Not listening
A. Problem: most people don’t listen
— wait eagerly for their turn to talk
— only care for themselves
B. Solutions
— Avoid【T1】______ question【T1】______
— Probe into the question
II. Asking too many questions
A Problems
— conversation sounds like a(n)【T2】______【T2】______.
— you don’t have much to contribute
B. Solution
—【T3】______ questions with statements【T3】______
III. Poor delivery
A Problems
— speak too fast
— speak in【T4】______【T4】______
— speak unclear
— speak without【T5】______【T5】______
B. Solutions
— Slow down
— Speak loudly
— Do not【T6】______.【T6】______
— Don’t use a【T7】______voice.【T7】______
— Try to use pauses
— Improve your【T8】______, e.g. posture, etc.【T8】______
IV. Talking about a weird or【T9】______ topic【T9】______
A Problems—talking about:
— your bad health or relationships
— your【T10】______job or boss, serial killers【T10】______
—【T11】______that only you and some other guy understands【T11】______
— about religion and【T12】______.【T12】______
B. Solution: Avoid the above topics
V. Being boring
A. Problem
— clinging to one topic for too long and make people bored
B. Solutions
— lead an interesting life, and focus on【T13】______【T13】______
— broaden your interest
—【T14】______talk【T14】______
— make the conversation feel more【T15】______【T15】______
【T9】
Five Common Mistakes in Conversation and Their Solutions
Good morning. Today’s lecture will be focused on the 5 most common seen mistakes in a conversation and the ways to avoid them. But, first of all, I have a question for you, that is: Can you improve your conversation skills? The answer is certainly. It might take a while to change the conversation habits that’s been ingrained throughout your life, but it is very possible. Here are a couple of mistakes.
First: not listening. Ernest Hemingway once said: "I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen." Don’t be like most people. Don’t just wait eagerly for your turn to talk. Put your own ego on hold. Learn to really listen to what people actually are saying. When you start to really listen, you’ll pick up on loads of potential paths in the conversation. But avoid yes or no type of questions as they will not give you much information. If someone mentions that they went fishing with a couple of friends last weekend you can for instance ask: "Where did you go fishing?" or "What do you like most about fishing?" You may also ask "What did you do there besides fishing?" The person will delve deeper into the subject giving you more information to work with and more paths for you choose from. If they say something like: "Oh, I don’t know" at first, don’t give up. Prod a little further. Ask again. They do know, they just have to think about a bit more. As they start to open up the conversation becomes more interesting because it’s not on auto-pilot anymore.
Second: asking too many questions. If you ask too many questions the conversation can feel like a bit of an interrogation. Or like you don’t have that much to contribute. One alternative is to mix questions with statements. And then the conversation can flow on from there. And you can discuss Frisbee golf, the advantages or disadvantages of different lures or your favourite beer.
Third: poor delivery. One of the most important things in a conversation is not what you say, but how you say it. A change in these habits can make a big difference since your voice and body language are vital parts of communication. Some things to think about: One, slowing down. When you get excited about something it’s easy to start talking faster and faster. Try and slow down. It will make it much easier for people to listen and for you to actually get what you are saying across to them. Two, speaking up. Don’t be afraid to talk as loud as you need to for people to hear you. Three, speaking clearly. Don’t mumble. Four, speak with emotion. No one listens for that long if you speak with a monotone voice. Let your feelings be reflected in your voice. Five, using pauses. Slowing down your talking plus adding a small pause between thoughts or sentences creates a bit of tension and anticipation. People will start to listen more attentively to what you’re saying. Listen to one of Brian Tracys’ cds or Steve Pavlina’s podcasts. Listen to how using small pauses makes what they are saying seem even more interesting. Six, 1earn a bit about improving your body language as it can make your delivery a lot more effective. Read about laughter, posture and how to hold your drink in 18 ways to improve your body language.
Fourth: talking about a weird or negative topic. If you’re at a party or somewhere you are just getting to know some people you might want to avoid some topics. Talking about your bad health or relationships, your crappy job or boss, serial killers, technical lingo that only you and some other guy understands or anything that sucks the positive energy out of the conversation are topics to steer clear from. You might also want to save religion and politics for conversations with your friends.
Last but not least: being boring. Don’t prattle on about your new car for 10 minutes oblivious to your surroundings. Always be prepared to drop a subject when you start to bore people. Or when everyone is getting bored and the topic is starting to run out of steam.
One good way to have something interesting to say is simply to lead an interesting life, and to focus on the positive stuff. Don’t start to whine about your boss or your job, people don’t want to hear that. Instead, talk about your last trip somewhere, some funny anecdote that happened while you were buying clothes, your plans for New Years Eve or something funny or exciting. Another way is just to be genuinely interested. As Dale Carnegie said "You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you, which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one." Knowing a little about many things or at least being open to talk about them instead of trying to steer the conversation back to your favourite subject is a nice quality. The meaning is that talking for what seems like hours about one topic. Topics may include work, favourite rock-band, TV-shows and more work. Opening up a bit and not clinging desperately to one topic will make the conversation feel more relaxed and open. You will come across like a person who can talk about many things with ease. As you’ve probably experienced with other people: this quality is something you appreciate in a conversation and makes you feel like you can connect to that person easily.
Okay, just to sum up. Today we’ve talked about five easily made mistakes in a conversation These mistakes can be well-improved if you follow our solutions. Although the list is not complete, I hope it would be helpful.
选项
答案
negative
解析
录音提到,“第四个问题是谈论古怪或消极的话题”,可知答案为negative。若此处没有笔记,可由之后A中的具体内容serial killers(连环杀手)推测,此类问题应该不是正面的话题。
转载请注明原文地址:https://kaotiyun.com/show/LvEK777K
0
专业英语八级
相关试题推荐
AreyouconsideringtravelingtoanativeEnglishspeakingcountrytoimproveyourEnglishlanguagesskillsatalanguagescho
Foetalsleeperstendtobeshyandsensitive,butpeoplewhoassumethesoldierposition,flatontheirbackwitharmsattheir
Hecontinuestotalktotheguestandlistentohim,butleansforwardandgraspsthearmsofthechairasabouttopushhimself
Onceuponatime,peoplewholivedalonetendedtobethoseoneithersideofmarriage—twentysomethingprofessionalsorwidow
Asmanyas40%ofuniversitylanguagedepartmentsarelikelytoclosewithinadecade,theformergovernmentadviserchargedw
Asmanyas40%ofuniversitylanguagedepartmentsarelikelytoclosewithinadecade,theformergovernmentadviserchargedw
AnalyzingFictionI.【T1】______【T1】______—Arrangementofeventstoa)【T2】_____【T2】______b)Raisethelevelofgeneralityc)【T3
AnalyzingFictionI.【T1】______【T1】______—Arrangementofeventstoa)【T2】_____【T2】______b)Raisethelevelofgeneralityc)【T3
A、Gotobedat3a.m.B、Gotobedasusual.C、Getupat10a.m.D、Wakeupnaturally.A盖茜博士建议有睡眠问题的人在自己计划睡觉的时间就寝,句(5—1)中男士提到自己在
(1)Whatwouldtheholidaysbewithoutlotsoftinytwinklinglights?Lesscolorfulandfestive—butalsoalotsafer.(2)Fro
随机试题
相为表里的阴经与阳经交接部位是()。
A.活动后伴疼痛性血尿B.无痛性血尿C.脓性血尿D.乳糜尿泌尿系结石尿液是()。
某商业大厦建设工程项目,建设单位通过招标选定某施工单位承担该建设工程项目的施工任务。该工程外墙全部为相同设计、相同材料、相同工艺和施工条件的隐框玻璃幕墙,工程东、西、北三个立面造型均比较规则,面积分别为487m2、645m2和2218m2,南侧立面为异形曲
在账务处理系统中,发现已经审核、已记账的记账凭证有错误时,可采用以下方法更正()。
对主业处于关系国家安全、国民经济命脉的重要行业和关键领域,主要承担重大专项任务子企业的产权转让,须报经法定机构批准。根据《企业国有资产交易监督管理办法》的规定,该机构为()。
学校应把智育放在首位,努力提高教师的教学水平,促进学生成绩的提高。()
(《威尼斯商人》是莎士比亚早期作品。剧本通过夏洛克与威尼斯商人安东尼奥的矛盾冲突,揭露高利贷者的残暴贪婪。安东尼奥为帮助他的朋友巴萨尼奥向鲍西娅求婚,借了夏洛克的三千块钱。夏洛克因与安东尼奥有宿怨,迫使他订了一个借约,如果不能在规定的日期和地点还钱,就要在
VisualBasic是一种面向对象的程序设计语言,构成对象的三要素是()。
数据库DB、数据库系统DBS、数据库管理系统DBMS三者之间的关系是()。
A、Areyoulisteningtome?B、Areyouclear?C、Areyoustillintheroom?D、Areyoustillmyfriend?BWhatdoes"Areyouwithme?
最新回复
(
0
)