Julie Lythcott-Haims noticed a disturbing trend during her decade as the former dean of freshmen at Stanford University. Incomin

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问题    Julie Lythcott-Haims noticed a disturbing trend during her decade as the former dean of freshmen at Stanford University. Incoming students were brilliant and accomplished and virtually flawless, on paper. But with each year, more of them seemed incapable of taking care of themselves.
   At the same time, parents were becoming increasingly involved in their children’s lives. They talked to their children multiple times a day and rushed in to personally intervene whenever something difficult happened.
   Lythcott-Haims came to believe that parents in wealthy communities have been hindering their children by trying so hard to protect the children from any disappointment, failure and hardship. Such "over-helping" might assist children in developing impressive resumes for college applications, but it also deprives them of the chance to learn who they are, what they love and how to navigate the world, she argues in her book.
   "We want so badly to help them by shepherding them from milestone to milestone and by shielding them from failure and pain. But over-helping is devastating, " she writes. "It can leave young adults without the strengths of skill, will and character that are needed to know themselves and to craft a life."
   "Don’t call me a parenting expert, " she said in an interview. "I’m interested in humans’ thriving, and it turns out that over-parenting is getting in the way."
   She cites statistics on the rise of depression and other mental health problems among the young people. She has seen the effects up close: she lives in a community that, following a string of suicides in the past year, has undertaken a period of soul-searching about what parents can do to stem the pressure that young people face.
   Her book tour is taking her to more school auditoriums and parent groups than bookstores. She tells stories about over-involvement and shares statistics about problems in young people, which she hopes will spark change in communities where helicopter parents are making themselves and their children miserable.
   "Our job as a parent is to put ourselves out of a job, " she said. "We need to know that our children are able to get up in the morning and take care of themselves."
   And how can parents help their children become self-sufficient? Teach them the skills they’ll need in real life and make sure they practice those skills on their own. And have them do chores. "Chores build a sense of accountability. They build life skills and a work ethic, " she said.
Over-helping can possibly help children to______.

选项 A、grow up more quickly
B、enter better colleges
C、take care of themselves
D、face up to failure or agony

答案B

解析 文章第三段第二句有Such“over-helping”might assist children in developing impressive resumes for college applications(有助于孩子把申请大学用的简历写得美妙动人),而其他选项不是over-helping所能带来的益处。
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