Marriage therapists teach a skill called active listening. Each partner takes a turn listening, then paraphrases what he’s heard

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问题     Marriage therapists teach a skill called active listening. Each partner takes a turn listening, then paraphrases what he’s heard and validates it. There is, however, a problem. It rarely works. For 80 percent of couples, active listening is too hard. It feels wooden, like emotional gymnastics. Nor does "fighting well predict happy marriages". Even happy couples have screaming matches. Every time you raise a hot-button issue, such as the in-laws or money, does your husband suddenly clam up? More than 80 percent of the time, it’s the wife who brings up sticky material issues, while the husband tries to avoid discussing them. This isn’t a symptom of a troubled marriage — it’s true in most happy marriages.
    You’ll often hear that staying in a bad marriage is worse for everybody concerned — especially the children — than getting divorced. That may be true if your home is. so riddled with hostility that it’s like a war zone. But University of Chicago sociologist Linder J. Waite says she has found that 75 percent of couples who rated their marriages as miserable but stayed of married were happy five years later.
    We usually think the strongest marriages are those that survive major traumas, such as bankruptcy or an extramarital affair. But frequently, dealing with the little things, those daily annoyances, eat away at a marriage. "Every couple experiences disappointment as initial romance and passion fade and they discover all their differences," says Wolin. "He doesn’t do enough housework. She is too emotional. He watches too much TV. She’s too lenient with the kids. People think these differences as problem, but they’re actually opportunities to build marital muscles. "
What’s the main idea of the last paragraph?

选项 A、Daily annoyances can do harm to marriages.
B、Marriage is not for romance and passion.
C、Surviving major misfortunes help strengthen marriages.
D、Differences are essential for happy marriages.

答案A

解析 段落主旨题。原文尾段第二句为主题句。原句中的daily annoyances,marriage与选项A重现,原句中的eat away与选项A中的do harm to对应,本段主要想讲述日常生活中的小事对婚姻也起着至关重要的作用。故答案为A。
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