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Secrets of Strong Families A group of American marriage and family counselors once placed a brief notice in four dozen newsp
Secrets of Strong Families A group of American marriage and family counselors once placed a brief notice in four dozen newsp
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2010-07-24
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Secrets of Strong Families
A group of American marriage and family counselors once placed a brief notice in four dozen newspapers in 25 states. "If you live in a strong family, please contact us.We know a lot about what makes families fail; we need to know more about what make them succeed. " Letters poured in. Then a questionnaire was mailed to each family who responded and more than 3000 families participated. one of the most surprising things to emerge is that six key qualities for making a strong, family function were mentioned time and again by many families. Those qualities are:
Commitment
Crucial to any family% success is an investment of time, energy, spirit and heart, an investment otherwise known as commitment. The family comes first. Family members are dedicated to promoting each other’s welfare and happiness-and they expect the family to endure. For strong families, commitment and sexual fidelity (忠诚) are so closely linked that an extramarital affair (婚外变) is regarded as the ultimate threat to a marriage. "An affair does terrible things to your partner’s self-esteem, "one woman wrote. "ft says, ’you are replaceable." Some families have seen commitment eroded by a more subtle enemy-work, and its demand on time, attention and energy.
Time Together
When 1500 children were asked "What do you think makes a happy family?", they didn’t list money, cars, or fine homes. They replied: doing things together. Members of strong families agree. They spend lots of time together-working, playing, attending religious services, and eating meals together. What you do isn’t as important, they say, as doing it. What about quality versus quantity of time? Strong families realize the time they spend together needs to be good time. It also needs to be sufficient; quality interaction isn’t likely to develop in a few minutes together. A working mother wrote, "To excuse myself for spending so little time with my daughter by saying, ’It was only 15 minutes, but it was high quality, ’ is a cop-out."
Appreciation
Feeling appreciated by others is one of the most basic of human needs. Questionnaires and interviews showed that the quantity of appreciation family members expressed to one another was even greater than anticipated. One mother wrote.. "Each night we go into the children’s bedrooms and give each a big hug and kiss. Then we say, ’you are really good kids and we love you very much, ’ We think it is important to leave that message with them at the end of that day. "A wife said "when my husband comes home he says, ’I see you’ve been busy with boys today and you got your hair cut and did the marketing. ’ He doesn’t mention the weedy garden. And when he comes in disappointed over a sale he missed, I remind him of the three he made last week. We’ve conditioned ourselves to look at what we have rather than what we lack. ”
Communication
Psychologists know that good communication helps to create a sense of belonging, and ease frustration as well as full-blown crises. Strong families emphasize that good communication does not necessarily happen; it takes time and practice. Good communication means clearing up misunderstandings. Strong families work at explaining one an other’s messages. A new Mexico husband wrote: "My wife would say, ’Are there any good movies downtown?’ and she’d mean, ’I’d like to go to a movie’. I’d answer the question literally, by telling what was playing. Rarely did I suggest going to a show. Then I’d be surprised when she was unhappy. Eventually we figured this pattern out. She is better now about saying ’I’d like to… ’ instead of hinting, and I’m better about checking to be sure I understand what she really means."
Spiritual Wellness
Spiritual wellness was defined by strong families as a caring center within each of us that promotes sharing, love and compassion for others. For many, the desire of their spiritual nature is expressed by church or synagogue (宗教) membership. For others, spirituality proves itself as a concern for those around them, or adherence to a moral code. Strong families express their spiritual nature in daily life. They literally practice what they preach (宣扬) . "Our family," one participant wrote, "has certain values-honesty, responsibility and tolerance, to name a few. But we have to practice those in everyday life. I can’t talk about honesty and cheat on my income tax return. I can’t yell responsibility and turn my back on a neighbor who needs help. I’d know I was a hypocrite (伪君子) , and so would the kids and everyone else."
Coping with Crisis
Strong families are not without problems. But they have the ability to surpass life’s inevitable challenges when they arise. Many of the tools these families identified as necessary for coping with crisis have touched on communication, spiritual resources. Another significant tool is adaptability.
All strong families know, a healthy family is a place we enter for comfort, development and regeneration; a place from which we go forth renewed and charged with power for positive living. As one woman said, "I put love into my family as an investment in their future, my future, our future. It’s the best investment I can make."
Don’ t Forget to Forgive
For many, the ultimate deposit to tile emotional bank account comes in forgiving.
When you forgive, you open the channels for trust and unconditional love. You cleanse your heart. You also remove a major obstacle that keeps others from changing-because when you don’t forgive, you put yourself between people and their energy on work with their own conscience, they spend it defending and justifying their behavior to you.
In everything you do for your family, keep in mind the miracle of the Chinese bamboo. After the seed is planted, new, taller shoots appear until the bamboo reaches full height. But the most dramatic growth is underground, where a root-like structure creates an intricate interlocking system. Using this system as support, the bamboo can grow to more than 35 meters!
The emotional bank account can be like that. As you begin to make deposits, you may see positive results immediately. More often it will take weeks, months, even years, but results will come, and you will be astonished at the changes.
The number-one threat to a marriage is extramarital affair, for commitment and sexual fidelity are so closely linked.
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B、N
C、NG
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解析
根据题干中的信息词extramarital affair定位到Commitment标题下第三句"For strong families’ commitment and sexual fidelity are so closely linked that an extramarital affair is regarded as the ultimate threat to a marriage(婚外恋被看作是对婚姻的最大威胁,因为责任心与忠诚是与幸福家庭紧密相连的) ”,题干表述正确。
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