During uncertain times, people tend to look back and wonder how it got to this. They feel more keenly their missed opportunities

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问题    During uncertain times, people tend to look back and wonder how it got to this. They feel more keenly their missed opportunities and failures in judgment. Regret—the sense that things could have turned out better if only a different choice had been made—becomes pervasive.
   However, regret needn’t be a garment rending, self-whipping emotion. Instead, it can be something to value and use. According to a recent study by Colleen Saffrey at the University of Victoria in Canada and colleagues at the University of Illinois, most people hold regret in high regard. Of all the negative emotions, regret was identified as the most valued in that it helped people make sense of life events and remedy what went wrong.
   Regret is hardwired into human biology, underscoring its importance in behavior. Advances in neuro-imaging show that when a person experiences regret, a part of the brain involved in both reasoning and emotion becomes active. Neuroscience also tells us that learning probably works best when there is an intense emotional component to it, so it could be that regret bolsters our ability to learn from experience.
   Suggestions listed below may help you manage this emotion and turn it into a tool for growth. Beware of hindsight bias. What you should have done always seems clearer in retrospect than it was at the time. As the Danish philosopher Sφren Kierkegaard put it, "Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards." He might have said, "So don’t be so hard on yourself."
   Use regrets to improve decision making and clarify values. Instead of thinking over what might have been, let what happened point the way. The regret might help you prioritize your investments in relationships, service to the community, health, and time, as well as help you set reasonable financial goals.
   Balance regret and risk. Instead of choosing a less risky option that you are least likely to regret, choose the one that will maximize your chance of reaching realistic goals. In fact, past experiences of regret may have given you a better appreciation of risk, which is a sign of growth.
   Don’t worry alone, especially if you are drowning in regret. If misery loves company, it’s because perspective helps. It’s good to know you’re not the only "idiot" in the neighborhood. On some level, we’re all idiots. The most successful people are those who have been resolute in the face of failure. If your thoughts turn morbid, get professional help so you can go back to striving toward your personal and career goals.
According to the first two paragraphs, regret _____.

选项 A、can be avoided if we make a different choice
B、occurs when we look back
C、is the most pervasive negative emotion
D、can help people learn and improve life

答案D

解析 推理判断题。根据题干定位到第一、二段。第二段提出遗憾有它的价值并可被利用,并在段末说“它帮助人们理解生活事件……想出补救措施”。故D项为答案。
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