During the past fifteen years a great deal of attention has been given to "letting it all hang out." My impression is that this

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问题     During the past fifteen years a great deal of attention has been given to "letting it all hang out." My impression is that this over-zealous devotion to speaking one’s mind has more often led to hurt feelings and mined relationships than to great joy and fulfillment.
    I think we generally agree that holding in real feelings and never expressing less-than-lovely thoughts about each other hardly lead to constructive communication. It’s a great relief to allow ourselves the luxury of admitting our human weaknesses and pursuing more honest relationships with others. But we need to strike a balance between telling it all and telling nothing.
    Recently I received a letter from a mother who had been persuaded by her troubled twenty-five-year-old son to attend a weekend "troth" marathon with him. Under pressure from the group, her defenses collapsed and she heard herself telling her son for the first time that he had been an accident—that she hadn’t been planning to have a child. He in turn told her that he couldn’t recall a single day in his childhood that he’d been happy.
    "At that time," this woman wrote, "it seemed helpful. We cried and we made up; I thought telling the truth had been good for us. But the trouble is, it wasn’t the whole truth. By the time Tommy was born, I did want him, and at times he was happy. Ever since that day, we’ve both been disturbed by some terrible feelings we shared."
    I must admit we’ve come to the conclusion that some things are better left unsaid. Honesty is a fine policy as long as we know what the truth really is—but most of the time we don’t. It’s a fine goal to encourage children to express their real feelings. But we need a new sense of balance. Telling it all is not a cure-all for every problem nor even an end in itself. It’s useful and freeing under some circumstances and terribly hurtful and damaging under others.
    It’s a good idea, I think, to bite your tongue for ten or fifteen minutes before saying what’s on your mind. Try to decide whether it’s going to open up new and better avenues of communication or leave wounds that may never heal.

选项 A、balancing all thoughts
B、expressing all real feelings
C、considering all relationships
D、admitting all human weaknesses

答案B

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