Marriage is big lately; actually it’s unmarriage that seems to be capturing our attention. From the award-winning American Beaut

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问题     Marriage is big lately; actually it’s unmarriage that seems to be capturing our attention. From the award-winning American Beauty to the Bruce Willis-Michelle Pfeiffer movie, The Story of Us, the institution of marriage is being turned inside out, and it’s not a pretty sight. To judge by these films, modern marriage involves a lot of broken crockery and busted expectations. While many current Hollywood depictions of marriage may be overly pessimistic, statistics in America are alarming: each year half as many Americans get divorced as marry.
    Marriage counselors say couples often choose to separate as a last-ditch effort to change their relationship, and possibly themselves, "Many trial separations don’t work because they’re not ’authentic’. They’re just one person’s way of getting out of the relationship," says Harriet Lerner, author of the book The Dance of Anger. But a separation can give couples time to calm down, renegotiate the rules of the relationship and gain some needed distance.
    For a separation to work, it needs to be well defined. Constance Ahrons, director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Training program at the University of Southern California, says "structured separations" tend to be the most productive. Couples facing separation do best if they establish some basic ground rules first. They should mutually agree on the length of the separation—Ahrons says three to six months is average—and both must continue to work on their own problems during that time, either with or without a counselor.
    Couples should agree not to see lawyers during their separation. Lawyers have a way of moving marriage toward divorce. During their period of trial separation couples should not pursue each other at all, either to fight or to reconcile, but should agree in advance on what kind of contact they will have. Separated couples can agree to speak on the phone for a prearranged period, for instance, or meet once a week. Some therapists advise their clients to agree not to talk to each other about their relationship during these encounters and to use the time apart to reflect on their own lives and see what they can change about themselves. If there are children involved, Ahrons says, both parties need to agree on all the ground rules having to do with kids. Parents should also be aware that repeated separations and reconciliations are difficult and confusing for children.
    Ahrons says a separation, while painful, can help keep the anger down and give a couple time to think. If both are unsure about the future of the marriage, it can provide a time-out, during which they can see what life would be like without the other. "Sometimes," Ahrons says, "a separation can lead back into marriage. Sometimes it leads to divorce. But if couples are able to clarify things, it will improve their marriage—or, make their divorce better. "
The first sentence in the first paragraph most probably means that______.

选项 A、people seem to take more notice of unmarriage than marriage
B、marriage seems to be smaller than unmarriage recently
C、marriage is popular nowadays while unmarriage seems to be more attention-catching
D、unmarriage is changing more quickly than marriage in the size and quantity nowadays

答案C

解析 本题问第一段中第一句话可能的意思是什么。文章第一段指出,婚姻不再是什么新鲜字眼。似乎不结婚更能引起人们的注意。从获奖的《美国丽人》到布鲁斯·威利斯与米歇尔·法伊弗联袂演出的电影《我们的故事》,婚姻制度正日益成为人们深揭猛批的对象。婚姻已经失去往日的光环。如果根据这些电影来判断,现代婚姻总是和夫妻吵架以及幻想破灭分不开。尽管当前许多好莱坞电影在描述婚姻时观点过于悲观,但美国的统计数字的确令人震惊:每年美国的离婚人口几乎等于结婚人口的一半。因此,本题的正确答案应是C,现代社会结婚很普遍,而不结婚似乎更能引起人们的关注。
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