Many people see remarriage as a fresh new chance at happiness with a partner whom they should have chosen in the first place. Bu

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问题     Many people see remarriage as a fresh new chance at happiness with a partner whom they should have chosen in the first place. But the statistics reveal that second or later marriages are much more likely to【C1】______divorce. Why is this so?
    For one thing, remarrying mates often have unrealistic【C2】______. They are in love, and they don’t really understand that the【C3】______of a missing partner(due to divorce, desertion or death)doesn’t actually【C4】______the family to its first-marriage status.【C5】______, remarriage will present them with a number of unanticipated design issues such as children’s loyalty binds, the【C6】______of parenting tasks and the uniting of disparate family cultures. These are three of the 5 major structural challenges of remarriage outlined by psychologist Patricia Paper in her remarkable architectural model of remarriage. Essentially, the remarried family’s unanticipated and difficult job is to【C7】______many of their old assumptions about how a "real family" — i.e. , a traditional first-marriage family—is supposed to【C8】______and get to work on self-consciously planning, designing and building an entirely new kind of family structure that will【C9】______their own unique requirements.
    A second, and equally important problem for the new couple lies in the realm of【C10】______communication. This is especially true【C11】______matters which lie very close to the mates’ hearts, such as the sensitive issue of the children’s behavior. Are the members of the pair【C12】______and caring of each other’s youngsters, who have【C13】______difficult losses and transitions? Or does a stepparent respond to a child’s stark unfriendliness with outrage and attack?
    For example, it is much better for a stepmom say "I feel hurt when your daughters come to visit and don’t even say Hello to me or make eye【C14】______"than "Whenever your bratty daughters come over, they walk right past me as if I didn’t even exist! They are so rude, and you just【C15】______there!" The first response is an "I" message and could start a useful discussion about how to handle the problem, while the second "you" response is blaming and likely to【C16】______an argument.
    The knottiest of remarriage issues is often that of【C17】______, and here a ton of research provides a clear guideline. The stepparent’s role should be similar to that of a nanny, an aunt or a baby-sitter who is familiar with the rules of the house(such as, no TV before homework is finished.)She or he monitors and reports on the child’s behavior, but ONLY the biological parent should do any kind of punishment(and is also allowed to let rules【C18】______.)And yet, far too often, a step-parent will think they should be the enforcer if they are to get real respect from their step-children.
    The problems of remarriage are a national issue that has been hiding under the【C19】______for far too long. It is only by bringing the unique challenges out into the open that we can possibly bring the【C20】______rate of these marriages down.
【C13】

选项 A、undercut
B、underwent
C、undertook
D、underestimated

答案B

解析 说完“夫妻要尊重和关爱对方的孩子”之后,作者用一个who引导的定语从句来说明这样做的原因,“因为小孩子们经历让他们难以接受的损失和生活上的转型”。根据这个意思,我们就只能选择underwent,因为undergo是“经历”,如:undergo an operation经历一次手术;undercut意思是“暗中破坏”,如:undercut a plan破坏计划;undertake意思是“着手做”,如:undertake an attack发动进攻;underestimate是“低估”,如:underestimate sb.’s response低估了某人的反应。
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